I have always been a social person. Since childhood I would look forward to being with friends, cousins or relatives. I so loved it. My mom would be amazed at my capacity to talk and befriend anyone. She still thinks I know the whole world and I almost do …know the whole world …he he he.
However over the years I had got selective about the people I choose to connect with. They had to be like minded and if there were different while I would be with them but struggled to find my place. I guess it was more my insecurity as person I was and my dis- trust due to circumstances. By God’s grace a lot has changed within me and I think I am more appreciative of people and accept them for who they really are and not whom I choose to see them as. My quality of interactions surely have changed.
Just yesterday I was with a chat friend and wondered how drastically different we were in taste, liking, attitude towards things, aptitude, lifestyles etc yet we seem to enjoy each other’s company and looked forward to catch up. I wondered at the mystery ? What was it that kept us going? So quizzed him to know what really made him want to meet me when I was so different and I really liked the simple answer that he gave.He said it was the sheer fact that I was so different ! He said “We always meet people like urselves who are so much like us and predictable . Its nice to know some one very different !”
That kind of clicked in my head. I too hadn’t realized the fact that we are often curious about things/people who are different from us yet out comfort of being with what we know makes us resist from exploring the unknown. Yet the true fun and growth as an individual is getting to know the unknown. That’s how we enrich as people, don’t we ?
The other interesting thing happened few days back was how I met 4 very different interesting people on the same day. One was an intellectual corporate executive, one was a celebrity / leading super star of India, the third was an aged couple in their late 70’s and last but not least were a bunch of new friends I have made of almost the same age group coming from different walks of life. The day was by far the most exciting.
I realized that though I could categorize their identities by what they did yet at the end of the day they were just people …people with stories to tell ! Contrary to their status their stories were human and similar just their perspectives were different. I also realized it’s not people who really were difficult to deal with but our acceptance of them that made it so complicated. If we just let people be and accept them for what they are and love them for what we liked about them life would get simpler.
Is it tough to do so ? My guess is it isn’t ? Yes we need to surely come out of our social and mental conditioning of accepting people. I think recently I seem to breaking out of my social and mental conditioning, there is trust too and that’s why I am beginning to see and accept people from a different perspective. There is more depth in my understanding of them. The judgments are beginning to reduce.
And trust me it’s a beautiful experience . It makes me feel librated for the 1st time.
Thanx universe once again for making see and enjoy this beauty !